One of the definitions of overwhelm is to feel overpowered by your thoughts, emotions, or senses.

Feel familiar?

My particular brand of overwhelm is more like … suffocating skin crawling madness. I once was the mistress of overwhelm. The discomfort was intense and yet there was a rush involved with pulling off what felt impossible. It took years to get acquainted with the damage ripple caused by all of the needless stress.

The good news is you can learn to minimize this paralyzing feeling by facing what’s going on and taking action; like a gymnast on a balance beam, taking one step sure step after the other.

Sure steps with a Go … Be … Flow … attitude.

Most of the creative women and entrepreneurs I play with are passionate, talented and risk averse people who are really good at what I like to call, connecting the dots. Their ability to coordinate ideas, people, places, projects and synergistic energy is astounding. Their keen sense of knowing combined with pure unbridled feeling manifests great opportunities.

These fine characteristics and what seem like unlimited opportunities can be distracting.

Why?

Because people of this caliber can do ANYTHING.

Connecting the dots is a blessing if the entrepreneur is conscious enough to apply her connectivity talent to her own “in the weeds” life situation.

A HA!

Learning to go with the flow is a tremendous kick in the pants.

Practice moving through life with grace and clobber overwhelm by incorporating some these ideas:

Take deliberate action a by choosing and revisiting your priorities every week. A list of targeted activities will help you remain on your quest.

• Carry out extreme self-care. This may mean taking time out to get a haircut, massage or a soak in the bath tub. Take some alone time to read a good book, take a walk and get out of your head.

• Visualize your ideal accomplishment, and then make a list of tasks that can be addressed to bridge and traverse where you want to be in the natural flow of things.

• Determine what projects you can delegate. Asking for help is freeing.

• Eliminate any unnecessary tasks and activities. Do what you absolutely must, and junk what isn’t an absolute necessity.

• Allow yourself to say NO.

• Give yourself credit for all the things you DO complete.

• Talk to a trusted friend, life coach or mentor. Get clarity by being with people who you admire, who are good at managing stress.

The next time you are feeling overcome with a sense of impending doom,
take a deep breath, gather your thoughts and let the clobbering begin.

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When you wake up in the morning what is the first thought that pops in your head before your feet hit the floor?

Are you mindful of your first waking thought?

I suggest tuning into your self-talk right before you roll out of the wrapper each morning.

Do you wake up thinking “This is going to be a great day?”  or do you wake up wishing you could go back to sleep and escape from your life?

Are you loving and kind or hard on yourself?

Just begin to notice your voice, then notice each time you internally berate yourself.

As soon as comments like:

I am stupid. I am fat. I should have done better. I am no good. I can’t do it. I am a failure … pop into your consciousness,  it time to:

RETALIATE

At the very moment the  self defeating statement occurs, I dare you tangle with the monsters in your head.

It’s Easy.

Witness the behavior and say something along the lines of:  “Nice try.”  “Actually,  I am fine exactly as I am and worthy of self love and  loving kindness.”

I get that each person will find her personal mantra, but the point is …

The most important lesson is …

You don’t have to allow the monsters to run the show.

You get to slug the bully in the throat and never be screwed with again.

Nothing new here really.

Just a fresh thought from my perspective as I learn how to tame and get rid the monsters under the bed.

It occurs to me that some of the most brilliant, successful people I coach are the ones who admit they are aware of the importance of positive self talk.

When I was first introduced to Brian Tracy I was surprised and a little embarrassed by a part of his lesson plan that included repeating “I Like Myself, I Like Myself, I Like Myself” in front of a mirror or whilst driving down the road.  This exercise seemed incredibly silly to me.

BUT

The lesson, the mantra, ” I Like Myself”  was about creating a cycle of positive self talk and ridding the monsters.

Some days it’s as if I have a complete board of brain directors trying to call the shots  - The Cybil-like personalities in my head can be astounding.

What would happen if you dialed in to each of these nasty little buggers when they show up?

What if you could learn to take away their power?

With these questions in mind, I am learning to sit with the evil temptress, witness the stark raving lunatic, laugh at the controlling crazy woman and embrace the hopeless  little girl.

I suggest the care and feeding the parts of you that remind you that you are brilliant, beautiful and worthy of all of the love in the world.

Ridding the Monsters Begins by:

• Listening to your Self-Talk
• Identifying where the message originated (My 3rd grade teacher gets an award here )
• Asking yourself if you really believe the message to be true
• Bringing out the big guns by identifying each saboteur
• Sticking up for yourself

You don’t have to believe, live with or accept any prior negative conditioning. It’s time to take back control of your thoughts by witnessing, addressing and altering your patterns of self talk.

You can do this.

“Thoughts become things … choose the good ones” - Mike Dooley

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