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A random bizarro-world event I just had to write about …

Today I received a phone call from an area code that seemed familiar but the caller did not leave a message.  I decided to call the number back and find out if I knew the person on the other end.

A women answered the phone and told me she hadn’t left a message because people normally do not call her back. She was a healer and was reaching out to people in the coaching profession to offer free healing sessions in return for referrals.

Somewhat interested and a little skeptical,  I shared that I already partner with a healer and wondered if she could share her website or blog with me. This way I could learn more about her credentials and share her site with people who may be in need of her services.

This is where things started to get strange. The “healer” (now in quotations marks because I’m thinking  - not so much) began to tell me that most people who have websites and blogs are phonies with misleading information on their websites.  She had been in business 10 years and has never needed a website. I agreed that word of mouth is great but argued a lot of honest people have reputable sites that serve as a menu of services containing valuable information.  …  Insert Theme from JAWS sound effect … Our egos had become involved in the conversation.

and then … As if the silly disagreement about the value of the internet was not enough.

I made the mistake of telling her that I too fancied myself a healer.  I made the statement as a connection bridge after the failed internet tete a’ tete.

BAD IDEA

This statement pushed her over the edge to straight crazy!

Had she let me finish,  I would have shared my personal healing experiences with yoga, teaching yoga, and coaching people through low self esteem and self sabotage helping them become whole and healthy again.

She would have none of it.

She said  “You might be psychic and intuitive but you are not a healer.” This was followed by her telling me that  I was arrogant, out of balance and in need of significant healing - followed by the powerful grand finale of hanging up the phone.

Conversation over.

WTF?

I tried to call back to straighten things out and make a peace offering.  When I finally got through to her, she hung up on me again.

The person on the other end of the line was a “healer”  … and I’m an arrogant phony in need of healing?

Seems like I would be a good prospect for her.

Hmmm

What do you think the lesson is here?

Have you ever triggered somebody in this way?

How did you handle the outcome?

This was a no win phone call.  The “Healer” was insecure and triggered before our conversation could get off the ground.

Next time … I will not return any random phone calls nor will I feel responsible for making peace with a angry suitcase carrying “healer.”

I will send out good intentions and let it go.

A great article written by a lovely woman …  Enjoy!

Being while Doing

Sometimes you may feel like you’re a human doing rather than a human being. It is so easy to get caught up in the “to do” list and the “should do” list. The endless list of tasks can leave us feeling depleted, unfulfilled and stuck; we go through our days distracted and dissatisfied.

By nature we are doers. We are designed to have goals, dreams and aspirations. And these require action - some doing. Doing is not the opposite of being; you are a human being who does things. An essential question is:

Who am I BEING while I am doing?

It speaks to who you are being on the journey of life. Are you being kind and considerate to others while you accomplish your tasks? Are you being mindful of the impact your behavior has on others? Do you take the time to feel the enjoyment and pleasure of what you are creating?

Simply BEING who you are is one of the greatest assets that you bring to your relationships. As you embody your authentic human ‘beingness’ through self discovery and your acceptance of self, you can fully be of service. As you connect with your inner resources, strengths, values and wholeness, you become more congruent, supportive and powerfully creative.

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About a year ago I began writing a book about extraordinary entrepreneurs and solopreneurs who live on their own terms. These are people who likely have achieved extraordinary results… leading to the creation of personal freedom.

They are interesting, eccentric, bold, creative, unfiltered creatures of the universe who want to share their story with others to inspire them to follow their dreams.

Recently,  I interviewed Jim Blaha and was taken by his courage, honesty and introspection.

After 25 years climbing the corporate ladder with Westinghouse including cyclical bouts with mental illness,  Jim woke up one day and asked him self the question “Who am I and what do I want to do with the rest of my life.” With a wife to support and 3 boys in college at the time,  he answered his question and resigned.  Jim made a complete career change that led him to becoming an investment banker and  business valuation expert with an entrepreneurial state of mind.

As the years passed buy Jim identified that wealth and finances were no longer as important to him as they once were. In his experience the best legacy is to be satisfied with your own FULL life.  Jim recommends that you get to know yourself and share your talents and gifts with the world and suggests journaling as a way to begin the journey within.

“The unexamined life is not worth living.”  - Socrates

Jim is currently finishing a book about his life story that will be published later this year.

Jim Blaha is another fine example of the incredibly talented individuals I have the honor of interviewing along the path of this fun and inspirational project.

Learn more about Jim Blaha at Linkedin.

If you would enjoy being interviewed for my book, please respond to me here or call me via Skype at:  Shannolann  or email me at shann ( at )  truebalancelifecoaching ( dot ) com