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In Balance -Shann

“True love doesn’t have a happy ending, because true love never ends. Letting go is one way of saying I love you.”

On Letting Go …

Some of  my life experiences this year have been excellent teachings about the art of letting go. In the last 7 months I let go of one of my closest friends, said farewell to one of my biggest limiting beliefs, and said “a holding back the tears” goodbye to my young daughter as she skipped off for two weeks of equestrian camp and 14 nights away from home.

Letting go of the closest friendship outside of my marriage was a shock to my way of life. How could this be? I had so many unanswered questions. I was hurt. I was angry. I was in denial. Thanks to the advice of a good friend, I’ve learned to be with the range of emotions and have stopped trying to figure out why our friendship was kicked to the curb. I will always have fond memories. I now choose to move on without flogging myself over what may have happened. Even though the friendship dissolved, I love and accept myself completely.

Leaving behind limiting beliefs began by paying close attention to my language. I was letting myself off the hook on some big projects with potential for business growth.  I was making excuses. Often hearing myself complain: “I’ll never finish this project because I don’t have the support I need to get it done”. During a coaching session with my business strategist it dawned on me that I simply had to get clear about what I really needed help with. It was time for some divine intervention. Within a matter of days I’d finally found the support person I was looking for.

When my husband and I dropped off our daughter at summer camp for two weeks, I realized in the moment that it was the last time I would be in the presence of this incredible version of my little girl. I was thrilled about her coming adventure, but sad to know she would be coming home a different interpretation of her young self. I cried almost all the way back home. My hope is she will return safely with grand stories of her adventure and will have made some lasting friendships. As hard as it was to let go, I know this time away from Mom and Dad will be healthy for her.  I can now look forward to meeting my daughter all over again when she returns back home.

Each experience of letting go flooded me with a stunning range of emotions. Even when the moments sucked out loud, I sat with my emotions and eventually let the painful feelings slip away. It was time to let go of the tether and float back into the skies of my glorious, imperfect life.

Here are a few of the things I’ve learned about letting go that I hope you will find supportive:

• Allow yourself to feel what you feel without judgement.
• Write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal.
• Create some time to be alone and mourn your loss. No matter how great or small.
• Plan a private good bye party and wish what-once-was a fond farewell to make room for new beginnings.
• Talk to a trusted friend, coach or counselor.

“We need in love to practice only this: letting each other go. For holding on comes easily–we do not need to learn it.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

When you realize that letting go is a natural part of life, you can begin to eliminate long-term suffering. Allow yourself to feel the way you feel. Then, I invite you to move forward with grace. You really are stronger than you can imagine. You deserve to love and accept yourself completely.