I was cruising around the internet a came across a post from Christian Fea outlining the tail end of a speech delivered by Bob Parsons, the CEO and founder of GoDaddy.

Check out Bob’s 16 time tested, street ready tips for improving your personal and business experiences.

1. Get out of your comfort zone.
2. Never give up.
3. When you’re ready to quit, you’re the closest you’ve ever been to succeeding.
4. Accept the worse thing that can happen. If you can deal with that, do what your contemplating doing.
5. Focus on what your want, not what you don’t want.
6. Take things a day at a time.
7. Always be moving forward. Small daily progress leads to large successes in the future.
8. Be quick to decide.
9. Measure everything significant. You can’t improve what you can’t measure.
10. Anything that’s not managed will ultimately fail.
11. Watch your competitors, what watch yourself closer.
12. Never let anyone push you around.
13. Never expect life to be fair.
14. Solve your own problems.
15. Don’t take yourself to seriously.
16. Always find a reason to smile.

When you wake up in the morning what is the first thought that pops in your head before your feet hit the floor?

Are you mindful of your first waking thought?

I suggest tuning into your self-talk right before you roll out of the wrapper each morning.

Do you wake up thinking “This is going to be a great day?”  or do you wake up wishing you could go back to sleep and escape from your life?

Are you loving and kind or hard on yourself?

Just begin to notice your voice, then notice each time you internally berate yourself.

As soon as comments like:

I am stupid. I am fat. I should have done better. I am no good. I can’t do it. I am a failure … pop into your consciousness,  it time to:

RETALIATE

At the very moment the  self defeating statement occurs, I dare you tangle with the monsters in your head.

It’s Easy.

Witness the behavior and say something along the lines of:  “Nice try.”  “Actually,  I am fine exactly as I am and worthy of self love and  loving kindness.”

I get that each person will find her personal mantra, but the point is …

The most important lesson is …

You don’t have to allow the monsters to run the show.

You get to slug the bully in the throat and never be screwed with again.

Nothing new here really.

Just a fresh thought from my perspective as I learn how to tame and get rid the monsters under the bed.

It occurs to me that some of the most brilliant, successful people I coach are the ones who admit they are aware of the importance of positive self talk.

When I was first introduced to Brian Tracy I was surprised and a little embarrassed by a part of his lesson plan that included repeating “I Like Myself, I Like Myself, I Like Myself” in front of a mirror or whilst driving down the road.  This exercise seemed incredibly silly to me.

BUT

The lesson, the mantra, ” I Like Myself”  was about creating a cycle of positive self talk and ridding the monsters.

Some days it’s as if I have a complete board of brain directors trying to call the shots  – The Cybil-like personalities in my head can be astounding.

What would happen if you dialed in to each of these nasty little buggers when they show up?

What if you could learn to take away their power?

With these questions in mind, I am learning to sit with the evil temptress, witness the stark raving lunatic, laugh at the controlling crazy woman and embrace the hopeless  little girl.

I suggest the care and feeding the parts of you that remind you that you are brilliant, beautiful and worthy of all of the love in the world.

Ridding the Monsters Begins by:

• Listening to your Self-Talk
• Identifying where the message originated (My 3rd grade teacher gets an award here )
• Asking yourself if you really believe the message to be true
• Bringing out the big guns by identifying each saboteur
• Sticking up for yourself

You don’t have to believe, live with or accept any prior negative conditioning. It’s time to take back control of your thoughts by witnessing, addressing and altering your patterns of self talk.

You can do this.

“Thoughts become things … choose the good ones” – Mike Dooley

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