Allowing for Success Means Getting Out Of Your Own Way
by Shann on Jan 06, 2009
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In Balance -Shann
They say miracles are past; and we have our philosophical persons,
to make modern and familiar, things supernatural and causeless.
Hence is it that we make trifles of terrors, ensconcing our selves into seeming knowledge,
when we should submit ourselves to an unknown fear. – William Shakespeare
It occurred to me that you just might find yourself staring at the new year as if you were climbing a metaphorical mountain.
Wondering …
How you will ever get to the summit?
A friend and coaching client was laying our her plans for 2009 and found herself paralyzed with overwhelm. Crazy self talk turned her well thought our plans into the mighty Mount Everest.
A little back story:
We closed out 2008 with a coaching session dedicated to the usual suspects:
2009 goals, time lines and strategies etc.
The next time we met, she was 100% freaked out and frozen stiff. The emotion of sheer terror had taken over before she made the first step toward her new and well orchestrated life. Visualizing avalanches, deep caverns and tricky ledges – She made everything a MONUMENTAL climb.
Her moment of clarity occurred when I asked,
“How can you get out of your own way and move forward with your plans”?
We discovered that getting out of your own way and allowing for success, might just look like this:
Delegate
Whether you ask for help from a friend, family member or assistant. Begin asking … Doing everything yourself is highly over rated. The art of delegation can mean the difference between success and complete insanity.
Elimination
What tasks or engagements are sucking up your time? Are you spinning your wheels trying to be all things in your business or community? If you are over extended, what can you back away from? Just because you have always done X, does not mean you have to continue. Change is …
Lighten Up
Laugh at your particular brand of madness. You don’t have to be so frigging serious. When you start to feel full-on-crazy, take a breath and witness your spin. You really are a comical critter. Humor is lovely medicine to tame your “I must be serious” hee bee jee bee’s.
Allow for small victories
My coaching clients love the fact that we celebrate small victories together. Learning to be grateful for the tiniest improvement allows for more success. For example, this morning I began my morning cardio workout after a holiday filled with, well, excessive holiday fare … It’s no secret that I need to get moving again. I began with 10 minutes on the elliptical and 10 minutes wailing on a heavy bag. YES! I did it. Small victories rule.
Engage a mentor, coach
Reach out and talk with a person who has already reached the summit. Is there anyone on the planet who has already achieved what you want to achieve? YES, ofcourse there is. Engage, hire, or buy coffee for someone that can inspire you to continue on your path to success.
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January 6th, 2009 on 9:33 am
I know how she feels! Thank you for the great tips.
January 7th, 2009 on 7:34 pm
Shann….I really like this imagery and your way of helping her through it. Thanks for sharing and love the new layout too!
January 10th, 2009 on 11:08 am
I agree about the small victories. Sometimes we get so mired in the big success mind process, that we forget about all the little things we achieve everyday. For instance if someone needs to lose 50 lbs, each pound needs to be celebrated, not just the total. Thank you Shann for the reminder.
January 12th, 2009 on 9:15 pm
Thanks Jay & Katie. It’s a blessing when we become aware of the obstacles we create for ourselves. It’s a blast to inspire others to allow a shift in their restrictive thinking. Shann
April 14th, 2009 on 3:25 pm
[...] So, sometimes it’s better when you stop caring about personal development. Sometimes when you clutch to hard, you suffocate your intentions. Sometimes you have to get out of your own way. [...]
June 18th, 2009 on 10:30 pm
Here I am again…I just keep coming back because I find your posts very inspiring and informative. Most of the times (or arguably, all the time) life is about taking risks because by doing so we learn a lot about life, about ourselves and therefore we can say we have LIVED when we take risks. So don’t be afraid to take that hike up the mountain
June 22nd, 2009 on 10:47 am
Thank you for your kindness.
I am thrilled this content resonates with you.
Create a great day!